Abbreviations

Starting with the simple stuff, ‘M’ is male and ‘F’ is female.  So, my relationship is ‘MF’.  Some Abbreviations are very well know, for example ‘BJ’ for blowjob, or ’69’ where one person lies on the other to they can mutually please each other orally.  The best way to approach this information is probably just a simple list.  Some abbreviations describe partner order and some describe acts or relationship dynamics.  Using abbreviations and terms about sex correctly will be easier once you learn some basics!

Partners and Order

When abbreviating with more than 2, order matters.

MFM – Male, Female, Male where the 2 males aren’t expected (but can) interact with each other but they are there to please the woman.

MMF – Male, Male, Female where the male in the middle is being pleased by the other male and the female.

FMF – Female, Male, Female where the male is pleased by the 2 females, but they are not expected (but can) interact with each other.

FFM – Female, Female, Male, the female in the middle is being pleased by the other female and male, but they are no expected (but can) interact with each other.

FMMMM[to any number of ‘M’] – is an orgy with one female and many males.  The dynamics can be whatever the group decides, multiple the female at once, or one at a time.

MFFFF[to any number of ‘F’] – is an orgy with one male and many females.  As with the orgy/group above, the dynamic can be whatever the group decides.

MFMF – This is shorthand for 2 couples having sex.  There are situations where the couples are simply having sex with another couple in the room.  This in contrast to a situation where the couples are fully interacts and any partner can do anything with anyone in the room.  Of course, anything in between.

Acts or Relationship Dynamics

Using abbreviations and terms about sex correctly starts simple when it comes to describing acts and relationships.

BJ – blowjob.  Some think that BJ ends there, but there’s BBBJ (Bare Back BlowJob – no condom).  BBBJC (Bare Back BlowJob to Completion).  BBBJWF (Bare Back BlowJob with Facial).

69 – laying in a position to please each other orally.  This can be MM, MF, or FF.  Everyone typically thinks of this as her on top, but you can comfortably do this with both of you lying on your side as well.

BDSM – This has some variations as to what it stands for, but typically it’s Bondage, Discipline, Submission, and Masochism.  This is typically part of a Dom/Sub relationship.

ATM – Ass to mouth.  This is when you are fucking your partner in the ass, and then they give you oral sex.

MILF/DILF – Mom/Dad I’d Like to Fuck.  A hot mom or dad you want to fuck.  So, Stacey’s mom.

CIM – Cum in mouth.  Doesn’t always have to start with a blowjob, can be during any sex act.  And may include ATM.

HJ – HandJob.  When your partner masturbates you

JOI – Jack Off Instruction. A partner gives masturbnation instructions to the other partner.

BBW – Big, Beautiful Woman.  Internet or dating slang for a larger girl.

BLS – Ball Licking and Sucking

DD/lg – A sexual relationship where the male is a Daddy Dom and the female partner is pretends to be a little girl.

DP – Double Penetration.  Does not have to include a third person.  The second penetration can be a toy.

DSL – Dick Sucking Lips.  Shorthand for a pair of lips that look like they facilitate good blowjobs.

GFE – Girlfriend Experience.  A paid for experience where the client pays someone to pretend to be their girlfriend.

ONS – One Night Stand.  Just as it’s described.

CNC – Consensual Non-Consent – this is a situation where one person has given their partner permission to continue sexaul activity through protests and saying no.  Please note, this should be done with a safe word and safe action.  More about CNC is here.

XOXO – Hugs and Kisses

SO – Significant Other.  Personal opinion, this is a person that’s more than a girl/boy friend, but not fiance yet.

STD – Sexually Transmitted Disease – any of the many diseases you can catch sexually.

Terms

Some abbreviations and terms are pretty obvious, but as with all the other sections of this post isn’t intended to be comprehensive.  But it’s intended to be a list of commonly used abbreviations and terms.

Watersports, also called a Golden Shower – Sexual acts involving urine/pee.  From peeing on each other, to ingesting the urine of your partner.

Working Girl, Escort – Prostitute

Enhancements – Breast or butt implants, lip injections, basically shorthand for any plastic surgery.

Around the World – Analingus and a fellatio

Crime Scene Action – sex during her period, also referred to as earning your redwings (if you perform cunninglingus on her period).

Deep Throat – swallowing the entire length of the penis, completely down to the base.

Doggie Style – sex with her on her knees and arms, and the man behind her, fucking her from behind.

Greek – Anal sex.

Little Blue Helper/Pill – Viagra, generic is called Sidenafil

Missionary – Woman on her back, man on top sex

Nooner – sex during lunch time

Afternoon Delight – sex in the afternoon

Pop – shorthand for a male orgasm

Sybian – a saddle shaped large vibrating appliance that someone sits on.

Conclusion about Abbreviations and Terms

This is very far from a complete list.  There are several websites that have different lists, like jamirodman.com that have lists with more information on some more obscure abbreviations and terms.  I avoided some that might trigger some people, like some of them about rape and some about specific nationalities.

This is about communicating clearly and correctly.  Some of these abbreviations and terms are simple and straightforward, like “BJ”.  But others, like MMF and MFM seem simple, but aren’t clear in their communication until you learn the significance of the order of the letters.

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