Styles of Blowjobs

While there are many many styles of blowjobs, we will discuss what the bulk of us see in porn or are likely to get at home.  Deepthroating, partial, mouth and hand, don’t forget the balls, and the always funny “gluck-gluck 9000”.

Deepthroat

Deepthroat is where the giver takes your entire dick into her mouth.  Typically, there’s no gag reflex and she (or you) will have to push past the “throat barrier”.   There are many tutorials to learn to deep throat online.  Here is a good one the yourtango.com website.   Another example can be found on the Instyle.com website.  Just like sex, the giver of the blowjob will likely need to warm up to this.  Really, expecting this might be a bit much.  According to the InStyle article linked above, only 37% of people don’t have a gag reflex.  The sounds of a deepthroat typically include a little gagging, so be prepared for that sound.

Deepthroat is one of those types of blowjobs that is more “porn” than “everyday”.  As always, communicating with your partner is the best way to handle discussing this particular act.  Maybe she can, maybe she can’t.  Communicating is the key!

Partial

When your partner only really puts the tip or the beginning of the shaft in her mouth, that’s partial.  She knows that the vast majority of the nerves on your penis are in the first 1.5-2 inches.  So, she’s using her mouth to stimulate where the most nerves are.  She can use her tongue to press against your frenulum (there is a large number of nerves here).  She can suck and lick.  Some people call this a “no hands” blowjob.  If so, it can include deepthroating but not necessarily.

Mouth and Hand

The mouth and hand blowjob is the most common.  It’s what you see in porn, and what you are likely to encounter in real life.  She puts as much as she can, regularly, in her mouth and stimulates the rest of your penis with her hands.  If you close your eyes, I would challenge you to figure out where her hands are versus her lips.  Using a lot of saliva helps with this type, making the shaft slick for her hands.

Don’t Forget the Balls

While she’s down there, don’t neglect the balls.  Discuss with her what you like.  Sometimes, it feels good to have the balls sucked on gently, pulled into her mouth.  Other times, just licking and sucking on the sack feels good.  Encourage her to explore and see what you like and feels good.  They have a lot of nerve endings as well, and it feels good to have them played with.

Gluck-Gluck-9000

Barstool sports owns and runs many podcasts.  “Call Her Daddy” had a particular episode called “Gluck-Gluck 9000” where the hosts described their blowjob style as Gluck-Gluck 9000.  The best description I can find is on reddit, where /u/sonicdooscar describes it like this:
“Grasp one hand with your pointer finger touching your thumb around his dick, and above that your other hand in the same position. Grip only with your thumb and pointers. Put your mouth on his tip. Once you spit on it a bit and its wet, one hand will go clockwise and the other counterclockwise. As you do that, go up and down on his tip. I call it the Gluck Gluck 3000 for some reason though not 9000.”

This sounds to me like an exaggerated, noisey version of using mouth and hands.  Among blowjob styles and positions, I think that this is probably one of the most known (behind deepthroating, which it seems like everyone knows).  “Call Her Daddy” has had some drama, but returned with one host and seems to have a strong following.

Throat Fucking

Throat fucking is where you are using her mouth and throat like a fleshlight.  Holding her head and fucking it.  It’s also called face fucking.  This is typically loud and very messy.  Makeup runs, saliva gets everywhere, it’s a wet mess of an event.  This is something that you need to discuss before attempting.  This is a dom/sub event, and you need to heed my advice on dom/sub relationships found here.

Postitions

Blowjob styles and positions can cover a lot of ground.  Pretty much any position that you can get into where your partners mouth can reach your dick can be a blowjob position.  We will discuss. a few of the more common ones.  These different positions put her jaw and throat in different levels of alignment, and can change the way your penis goes into her mouth.  This will change the way the blowjob feels based on her position.  It moves her tongue around, changes neck and jaw angles, and allows your penis more or less restricted entrance into her mouth.

69

Ah yes, the good old 69.  I bet you just giggled in your head.  Society has made this a funny number.  But, let’s be honest, it’s a great position.  It allows you. to access your partners pussy and ass while she sucks your dick.  69 is generally done with her lying on you, her head at your crotch, her pussy over your mouth.  It gives both of you something to do, and allows you to please each other.  In my experience, I want to eat pussy or get a blowjob, but I still want a 69 from time to time.

On Her Knees

My guess is that this is the most or the second most practiced in day to day life for most couples.  This is where you would be seated or standing, and she gets on her knees and gives you a blowjob.  It keeps her hands free to play with your shaft or balls.  This position also allows you to watch as your dick disappears into her mouth, and use your hands on her head as well.  Communicate before you do too much guiding, not every girl wants or likes her face fucked.  This position has a dom/sub component to it.  While there is an argument for who is the dominant one (that my SO would argue with me about for sure), I can say that it feels dominant to receive a blowjob like this.

Roadhead

This can be very dangerous.  There’s a storyline in “American Gods” where a couple was performing this and had an accident.  The women bit the penis off her partner during the accident.  Typically, the woman will lay across the car and give a blowjob to the driver of the car.  Obviously, this is very distracting.  Of all the blowjob styles and positions, this is the one that I would suggest you second guess or just park for.  It is exciting, but dangerous (which is probably why it’s exciting).

Head Hanging Off the Bed

This is a very submissive position in my opinion.  She lays on the bed with her head hanging off, either on her back or stomach.  This gives you approximate access to her mouth while standing next to the bed.  This is basically a face fucking position.  Let her guide you with her hands on your legs both pace and depth.  She has to breathe!  If you are able to deepthroat your partner, you can see your dick make her throat bulge out in this position on her back.  This position with her on her back gives her excellent access to your balls as well.

Lying on the Bed

This is what I would expect to be the most common of all the blowjob styles and positions.  You lie down, and she makes herself comfortable and gives you a blowjob.  This allows you varied access to her body as well, at her discretion.  Also, this allows her to give you different sensations based on where and how she lays.  Because she’s on the bed with you, you will both be more comfortable as well.

Spit or Swallow

This is the finale.  The final result of most blowjobs.  Whether your partner spits or swallows is up to them, of course.  But, your opinion should be heard on this as well.  Suddenly stopping all the stimulus that oral provides can ruin a good orgasm, or take an orgasm from great to just OK.  This all ties to the mental part of a blowjob we’ll discuss below, but blowjobs are about accepting and a desire to please.  To me, it would be like orally getting your partner to the edge of an awesome orgasm, and just as she’s about to roll over the edge you stop stimulating her, or switch to fingering.

Mental Stimulation

Blowjobs are as much mental as they are physical.  Getting a blowjob is a very accepting thing to do.  Your partner is accepting the most vulnerable, genetically speaking one of the most important, parts of your body into her mouth.  She’s working to please you in a giving, unselfish (this is arguable with some women) way.  the mental stimulus and the acceptance culminates in the orgasm.  By keeping your dick in her mouth and swallowing, she’s not just saying “I want to please you” she’s saying “And I want all of you, even your ejaculate, inside me”.  It’s even more so when she smiles as she swallows and talks about how much she likes it.  Women say again and again that men being verbal is a turn on, but it’s both sides being verbal.  Not just men.

Conclusion

Blowjob styles and positions are varied and all are awesome.  It’s important to know that this is FAR from an exhaustive list of ways, places, styles, and positions a blowjob can happen.  The only bad blowjob, IMO, is one that uses teeth.

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Physical Actions

Attentive Great Blowjob

Physical actions that make a great blowjob will vary from man to man.  I would expect some level of communication to have happened between you and your partner.  This needs to include both of your likes and dislikes during oral sex.  So, pacing, pressure, depth, suction, and handwork are physical sensations that make a difference.  For pacing, the sensations should build to the orgasm based on how you are reacting.  Because all of these things will be specific to you, you need to communicate them to your partner before or during the blowjob.

Great blowjobs will have a variety of sensations for you.  Pacing, pressure, depth, suction, and handwork will all change through the blowjob.  Typically, I’ve read that in the beginning a good slow pace works best, with light suction.  Then, as things progress, adding more handwork, deeper depth and more suction is OK.  In the end, when you are cumming most sensation on the head needs to stop with light suction (should she allow you to cum in her mouth.  Not much better for me personally than when she swallows.

Finding a partner that will pay attention to your balls is always fun.  Having her move around and incorporate more than just your dick, kissing and licking around, sucking gently on your balls, that is awesome.

Enthusiasm

Attitude comes out in the desire your partner shows in pleasuring you.  When your partner shows enthusiasm to sucking your dick, that is what makes a great blowjob.  When she wants your dick in her mouth, truly WANTS it, there’s not wrong way.  She will want to please you, do it the way you like.  Enthusiasm is a huge component of what makes a good blowjob a great blowjob.

Want and Desire

Want and desire are important in a great blowjob as well.  Want and desire manifest in the enthusiasm and energy given to the blowjob.  No one wants a partner that isn’t into the act.  That is, unless that is your fetish and that is what you want.  Having want and desire will show in the eye contact, the attention paid to your reactions.  Your body language, moans and words of pleasure should be enough to show an attentive partner what works and doesn’t with you.

Verbal and Non-Verbal

Universally, women say they want their partner to make more noise in bed.  Make sounds.  Let your partner know when she’s doing something you enjoy.  Tell her that feels good, guide her with your words.  Simply saying “Oh yes, like THAT” while she’s doing whatever thing you are really enjoying is great.  Even non verbal communication is great.  For example, put your hand on her head, not to GUIDE her, but to feel what she’s doing as she blows you.  Not every woman will be into this, and some will really be into it.  You can also hold her or touch her and your squeezes will let her know when she’s doing something you like.

External Site Advice

Typically, I avoid linking to a Cosmopolitan article because I don’t agree with everything they say.  But, here is a short list I agree with.   Nicole Atkins also give GREAT advice on her medium.com article.  She goes over the physical sensations, and includes links to the specific parts she mentions.  This is a particularly good article on the subject of great blowjobs.  Hey Heidi covers one item I honestly hadn’t thought about.  Lie back and relax.  Letting all your thoughts go and being in the moment to accept all the pleasure is an important part of making a great blowjob.

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