Communicating

Communication is very important. I know I talk about it a lot, but just read the posts linked above about how important it is. Sex is important, and should be given that level of importance in your life. Communicate your desires, wants, and things you just want to try. Then, listen to your partner about they want out of your shared sex life. Discussing things will probably show you more in common than you think! Don’t be afraid to discuss things you might think are taboo, like anal or domination. Also, don’t make your partner feel weird about expressing a desire you might not like. Being honest requires being vulnerable, and feelings can get hurt here. Find out what you each like so you can spice up your sex during quarantine, and after!

Places

Now that you have some idea of what you and your partner are in to, discuss some specifics. Places you haven’t fucked yet should be on the list. Maybe you want a blowjob on the back porch or you need to Christen every room in the house. Both of those are excellent and run ideas. Be very careful about public sex acts, no one wants to register as a sex offender for the rest of their lives. Some other ideas to spur your thoughts are outside sex, fitting room at a department store, family restrooms, car sex almost anywhere, office buildings you may have access to, the ideas are endless. There’s an article on Paired Life that has more great ideas!

Acts

Sex acts are where you can spice things up in the comfort of your own home. Setup the bedroom for something romantic, but go all out. Because you communicated both of your wants and needs, this is where all that comes in to play. Maybe you want to be dominated or dominate your partner. The point is, make use of this time. Turn off the TV, bend her over the kitchen table a fuck her. Don’t sit and waste the time, take her to bed and try something on your list or hers (preferably both!). There are a lot of articles online with ideas for sex. Just remember, not everything needs to be spontaneous. Grabbing a quickie might just be what the doctor ordered in the middle of the day. If you work from home, give your partner permission to give you head during work hours. Talk to your partner about your household being “Free Use” where one or both of you are fully open to what the other wants 24/7 (within your own limits).

Toys and Equipment

Mail ordering from places like Liberator or Love Honey. I don’t have many ideas for male toys, I’ve read good things about the Fleshlight. My thought is that it would probably feel good, but cleanup would turn me off. However, for women, I have a small collection that continues to grow. Sex during quarantine is a prime time to experiment!

Toys

Having a small collection of toys for her is probably one of the best investments you can make. I would recommend that you get a good vibrator. The Magic Wand with a speed controller is a great place to start. It plugs into the wall so there’s no charging to worry about, and with the speed controller you can ram ramp up and dial back the vibrations to edge her along. The Womanizer is another must have toy. The reviews all said that it can induce an orgasm in minutes. It uses pulsed suction to stimulate her clit. I would also recommend a dildo with a suction base (talk about size with your partner). Having a remote controlled vibrator is a fun “date” toy too. We-Vibe makes several great ones. I would also recommend getting a good quality butt plug with a flared base so you don’t lose it!

Equipment

When I’m talking about equipment, I’m talking about items that are larger and more complicated than toys. For example, bondage equipment or sex swings, things like that. When it comes to bondage, there is a lot of equipment out there that would require its own room for bondage. Because this is about sex during quarantine, we will discuss things you can order and use now. For example, an underbed restraint system like this one is a good start. If you enjoy that, I would recommend going to Etsy and getting something a bit nicer from a place like Atrocity Shop. Both the nicer set and the inexpensive set can be hidden under the bed or under the mattress when not in use. Don’t forget you can tie her to the headboard as well using cuffs.

Sex Swings are decidedly harder to hide, but it is possible. Your Tango has a good article on how to hide the ceiling hook or support for your swing. So far, no one has noticed mine. Sex Swings come in a variety of types. Whichever you choose, make sure it’s secure for your partner and comfortable as well. I would recommend always getting the head support as well so she can lay back and not worry about supporting her head. These do take some effort to get used to, but they are fun.

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