Location Risks

Sex in forbidden places carries risk. These risks are greater the more public the location is. For example, getting a blowjob in a public park at 3:00 in the afternoon is a bad idea. But, do not put yourself in a situation where kids could see. Fucking in the woods off a rarely used trail is probably safe. It’s all about the perceived risk during the act.

Make sure you choose a place that’s safe from prying eyes. You might start in your own house with the windows open. Then graduate to more public and risky places, like trails, movie theaters, or planetariums. It’s just really important that you don’t get caught. For example, there was a British couple that got caught fucking inside the church behind the Virgin Mary statue. The same situation in the United States would likely carry much striffer penalties.

Being Discreet

There are lots of ways to be discreet when having sex in a public(ish) place. For example, in a movie theater don’t sit in the front row. Sitting in the back means no one will be between you and the screen. If you are outside, get off the trail. If that’s not possible, only expose the parts necessary to fuck. Only pull her pants down to mid-thigh, or only take your dick out through the zipper.

Using your hands is always an option. Keeping them hidden under a coat or blanket, you can get away with a lot. Make sure your partner can be quiet and control the outburst of an orgasm. Sudden noises in a quiet place will draw unwanted attention.

Getting Caught

You are going to have to play this by ear. If the person you are talking to seems sympathetic, play on that. Talk to them person to person and see if you can just not do this again. Hopefully, they will work with you on the infraction and just ban you from the location or something similar. If the employee is talking about calling the police, then you need to be quiet. An admission of guilt at this point will not work in your favor. I am not a lawyer, but once the police get involved I would go silent.

If the person catching you is another adult and they don’t plan on calling anyone, be nice. This is the most likely scenario. But, it’s very likely that there is a bit of jealousy on their part. Sex in forbidden places requires an adventurous and fun partner, and an incredible amount of trust. My partner and I have had sex in forbidden places many times. If there is a confrontation from whomever saw you and your partner, avoid it getting physical. With the ever present cell phone, there will be video of the altercation. None of us want that.

Rewards

As we all know, sex is it’s own reward. A lot of times, the act is spontaneous. Because of this, you are going to want to talk about boundaries before the act. Communicating your limits and respecting her limits will go a long way in maintaining her trust. Sex in forbidden places will be something your two giggle and possibly brag about for years. I know in my case, there are times when I simply cannot keep my hands off my partner. Because of the way it works for us, we know each others limits.

The rewards of showing your partner that you cannot keep your hands off her are long term and short term. For the long term, it’s yet another session of pleasure for both of you. Short term, there’s a cascade of hormones (discussed here) that will reinforce positive emotions and connections with you. This reinforcement is a long term and a short term reward.

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