Cumming too quickly

Cumming too quickly can be disappointing for us men. I know it’s something that happens from time to time. If we haven’t had sex in a while, maybe a little drunk, it happens. It can have a thousand causes. The important thing is that we don’t let it stop the festivities.

A lot of the frustration comes from the fact that we think of ourselves as just our dick. We tend to think that this is the only part that can give our partners pleasure. I’m here to tell you, that is very wrong. Don’t forget, you have fingers, a mouth, and hopefully some toys lying around that can get her to her destination.

More than likely, your partner will see this as a huge compliment. I know my SO doesn’t like it when I hold myself back over and over again. Sometimes, we get so into our partners that we just can’t help it. The moans, the tightness, everything that constitutes sex can just overwhelm and suddenly the train has left the station. If you’ve been with your partner for any length of time, she’ll know it’s coming. Sometimes, she’ll even spur it on.

Not cumming at all

Not cumming at all can be a real pain. It doesn’t happen to everyone, but blue balls are a thing. On the rare occasion that this has happened, I know that my balls have hurt like they’ve been punched for quite some time. Plus, there’s a component that you might be frustrating your partner by making her think she’s not enough. You should communicate with her that it’s not her.

However, there’s a bright side to not being able to cum. Your partner gets to have your dick in her for as long as she needs to, and you get to be in her while she’s having her orgasm. Being able to feel her pussy contract and pulse around you and not be distracted by your own orgasm is amazing. Plus, there’s a great chance that you get bring a great round 2 because without a release, you’ll likely be good to go.

Cumming together

We all strive to cum together. But, as we have seen, there are times when it just doesn’t happen. The important thing is that we don’t stop or get frustrated at the situation. Communicate with your partner when something like this happens, and I think you’ll find that it’s not that big of a deal. We need to stop thinking of our sexuality is only our penis. Just like our partners, our whole body is sexual. When you can cum together, it’s really an amazing experience.

Hopefully this post helps with solutions to the issue of cumming too soon or not at all. If you think something wasn’t covered, or have an idea for a post, let me know using the contact information on the Contact Us page.

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