So, once she’s naked, you should never stop touching her. I’m going to assume that this session is not a quickie. But, outside of that one caveat, my assumption is that you don’t have a time constraint. Momentum is your friend when you are building up to the actual fuck. Touch can and will build this before you even touch an erogenous zone.

 

Drag your fingers across her body. Bring your hands along her face and touch her ears and behind them. If you are into bondage, drag your fingers down her arms and let her play with your dick while you cuff her and lock her into the restraint. Be careful not to touch her in places that tickle her, that would ruin the momentum and foreplay we are building.

I’m assuming that you have communicated with your significant other about what you both expect. If not, you need to do that. Several posts about communication for details on that are at the link above.

Since you know what her likes and dislikes are, use that. Make sure you are following the details of what she discussed with you. Don’t touch the places she tells you she doesn’t like being touched at. Touching her is, in my opinion, the most important part of foreplay. Touching and talking.

I’ve talked about touching before, and ideas on how to do that in foreplay. Women don’t work like must us men do, ready to go at the drop of a hat. We have to warm them up, and get the motor running. Touching is a tool we can use to do this. Make her beg, dripping wet and ready for us. I cannot imagine having a dry pussy and trying to fuck. That just sounds painful for her!

We’ve talked about using your fingers. Now we should discuss other things we can touch them with to keep things interesting. Temperature play is something some couples venture into. Drag a piece of ice over her nipples, then gently suck on them. The temperature change is a turn on. Use things with different textures, like a feather tickler or a Wartenburg pinwheel to vary things. I’ve used a pizza wheel before, and a silicon basting brush too. Makeup brushes also give her a different stimulus as well.

Learning to touch and caress her is something we all need to learn to do. Sex is not a race, take your time. Never stop touching her once her skin is exposed. Foreplay is the beginning of the buildup for her, and is possibly more important than the sex itself. It can and does make or break the experience for her. You can see in the picture above, her lips are engorged and she’s clearly turned on. You can almost hear her moan from his touch.

The goal of every sex session or scene is mutual pleasure. Knowing how to get your partner there is, in my opinion, the most important part of the sex act in it’s totality. Meaning foreplay is THAT important. Sex is always fun, but sex with a partner that’s mad with desire and begging for your dick, that should be the goal every single time!

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Have you ever been receiving a blowjob and had the girl suddenly change what she’s doing? Every man and woman will experience a momentum failure like that. She’s got a great rhythm going, everything is just like you like it. So, you tell her “Just like that”. Then she changes what she’s doing. now, lucky for most men, we reset fairly quickly. I do realize not all men reset quickly, but most of us do. Women, however, do not. If a man drops to 70%, then returns from that, a woman drops to 20% and has to start over from there.

How do we tell and how do we help her not break the momentum? I always pay attention to her non verbal queues first. I know my SO, I know her body and her movements. With this, I know when she’s getting close. Also, listen to what she’s saying to you. For example, when she says “Just like that” then don’t change anything. Don’t speed up, slow down, push harder, change nothing. When she says “just like that”, that is exactly what she means. Just like that.

I know all this seems a little silly to have to say. But with everyone’s goal of an orgasm, you don’t want to be that man that gets yours and she doesn’t’ get hers. The fun really begins when you start using your knowledge of her reactions to build and pull back. Momentum and the female orgasm doesn’t have to be an elusive thing. Kim Anami had a great blog post about building momentum in the relationship. Momentum is more than about sex. Remember that!

Building and pulling back pushes waves of pleasure through her. Once you have learnd her body language, you can use that to push her almost to orgasm, then pull back. You don’t want her to get too close, though. Just make sure she’s feeling good, then slow down, change position, something different. This will keep her orgasm a moving target for her. Then, once you push her through the orgasm, it’s explosive. That’s always a fun one!

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