Relaxing

Relaxing for a blowjob means being comfortable.  Find a spot that’s not only comfortable for you, but for your partner as well.  If you are comfortable on a chair, make sure your partner has a blanket to kneel on or sit on.  When you receive a blowjob on the bed, that means making room for your partner as well as yourself.  Just make sure you are both comfortable for the duration of the blowjob.

Preparing to be Pleased

This one sounds funny.  A great blowjob means you need to be preparing to be the center of attention.  For me, this is the hardest part.  You have to be ready to just receive pleasure without any effort on your part.  Your partner is there to give you pleasure.  They are going to be focussing on you and your pleasure.  This is an act of giving on their part, so you should be receiving with the intent of you pleasure.  So, t would be insulting to the giver to not be receptive.

Blowjobs are a selfless thing to do for the giver (although my partner would disagree).

Communicating Your Desires

Communicating your desires, likes, and dislikes during a blowjob is important.  There is no universal technique that everyone likes to receive.  So, knowing what you like is important.  Also, you could have a partner that likes to experiment with you to figure it out!  Think about pressure, like how much pressure do you like on your head or your partner’s hand on the shaft.  Do you like it when your partner plays with or sucks gently on your balls?  There are a lot of things to think about.

It is not just technique.  Think about the acts that you like or that your partner might like to try on you.  Do you want to be in their mouth the whole time?  Where do you want to cum?  Don’t forget to warn your partner before you cum because they will have a preference as well.

Communication is a two way street.  Find out if there are things your partner wants to do.  Do they want to rim you while playing with your dick, or give you some manual prostate stimulation?  These are the things you should talk about.  Hopefully, this will spur other conversations.  Be open, talk about things you have wanted to feel and let your partner express things they have wanted to try.

There are a lot of videos about it but here is a short one, and here is a course on Masterclass about this as well.

Ready for a Good Time!

Once you are ready a great blowjob, put all this prep into action!  Relax, get comfortable, and let your partner get to work pleasing you.  Let your partner put your conversation to work, putting the perfect pressure on your head.  Working your shaft just right.  Bringing you to edge and pushing you back until you can’t take it anymore.  Then, warning your partner (if that is what you decided on) and releasing your orgasm.

Conclusion

A great blowjob isn’t difficult, it just takes a bit of effort from the participants.  If you have any thoughts about the website or want to add or correct something, please use the contact us page!

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Physical Actions

Attentive Great Blowjob

Physical actions that make a great blowjob will vary from man to man.  I would expect some level of communication to have happened between you and your partner.  This needs to include both of your likes and dislikes during oral sex.  So, pacing, pressure, depth, suction, and handwork are physical sensations that make a difference.  For pacing, the sensations should build to the orgasm based on how you are reacting.  Because all of these things will be specific to you, you need to communicate them to your partner before or during the blowjob.

Great blowjobs will have a variety of sensations for you.  Pacing, pressure, depth, suction, and handwork will all change through the blowjob.  Typically, I’ve read that in the beginning a good slow pace works best, with light suction.  Then, as things progress, adding more handwork, deeper depth and more suction is OK.  In the end, when you are cumming most sensation on the head needs to stop with light suction (should she allow you to cum in her mouth.  Not much better for me personally than when she swallows.

Finding a partner that will pay attention to your balls is always fun.  Having her move around and incorporate more than just your dick, kissing and licking around, sucking gently on your balls, that is awesome.

Enthusiasm

Attitude comes out in the desire your partner shows in pleasuring you.  When your partner shows enthusiasm to sucking your dick, that is what makes a great blowjob.  When she wants your dick in her mouth, truly WANTS it, there’s not wrong way.  She will want to please you, do it the way you like.  Enthusiasm is a huge component of what makes a good blowjob a great blowjob.

Want and Desire

Want and desire are important in a great blowjob as well.  Want and desire manifest in the enthusiasm and energy given to the blowjob.  No one wants a partner that isn’t into the act.  That is, unless that is your fetish and that is what you want.  Having want and desire will show in the eye contact, the attention paid to your reactions.  Your body language, moans and words of pleasure should be enough to show an attentive partner what works and doesn’t with you.

Verbal and Non-Verbal

Universally, women say they want their partner to make more noise in bed.  Make sounds.  Let your partner know when she’s doing something you enjoy.  Tell her that feels good, guide her with your words.  Simply saying “Oh yes, like THAT” while she’s doing whatever thing you are really enjoying is great.  Even non verbal communication is great.  For example, put your hand on her head, not to GUIDE her, but to feel what she’s doing as she blows you.  Not every woman will be into this, and some will really be into it.  You can also hold her or touch her and your squeezes will let her know when she’s doing something you like.

External Site Advice

Typically, I avoid linking to a Cosmopolitan article because I don’t agree with everything they say.  But, here is a short list I agree with.   Nicole Atkins also give GREAT advice on her medium.com article.  She goes over the physical sensations, and includes links to the specific parts she mentions.  This is a particularly good article on the subject of great blowjobs.  Hey Heidi covers one item I honestly hadn’t thought about.  Lie back and relax.  Letting all your thoughts go and being in the moment to accept all the pleasure is an important part of making a great blowjob.

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