If you haven’t yet read the post on the clitoris or the post about female external anatomy, you probably should. I will be referring back to those as I explain what you are doing and most importantly WHY you are doing it. As with every sex act and partner, communication is key to happiness. We need to communicate with our ladies, and encourage them to communicate with us as well! This is only more so when we talk about eating her pussy. If you’d like to watch an instructional video about it, Nina Hartley has a good one you can google.

Getting Started

Assuming you’ve read the posts that I will be referring back to, and that you’ve communicated to your woman what you want to and intend to do, let’s get started! Always start by understanding that her entire body is a sex organ. So, touch, kiss, caress everywhere. I try to never take my hand/fingers off of her body no matter what I’m doing. Kissing her, building up tension and need is the goal. If you have a toy (we have a Hitachi and a speed controller, it’s awesome) then place it on her clit and leave it set to low.

Start at her face. Kiss her like you mean it. Let your fingers and hands wander all over her body as you kiss her. Play with her breasts, move your kissing down to her neck. Make your way down her body to her pussy. Once you are there, move the toy (assuming you have one there) and start gently kissing her outer labia. Her clitoral hood should be kissed as well. Gently insert your tongue in between her inner labia and tease her a little, but never stop kissing and licking.

Going Downtown

Start gently. Eating her pussy is not a speed sport. The best orgasms come from a slow build. When you really start to focus on the clit, you need to have your hands in a place where you can gauge her reactions to what you are doing. If you hold her hands, she’ll squeeze them when she’s feeling a lot of something (sometimes good, sometimes bad). There will be a time when she’s really pushing and lifting her pussy off the bed as you eat away. When she’s moving, she might be moving to refocus your tongue on a more pleasurable part of her clit. Some prefer to focus on the top, on the button itself, or just below, let her direct you.

Try different things to her and let her guide you as to what works and what doesn’t. Draw the alphabet on her clit with your tongue and pay attention to which letters she reacts to. Suck gently then more firmly depending on her reaction to your efforts. Lick and stimulate inside her pussy, fucking her with your tongue and see how she reacts. Like her taint and her ass if you are feeling up for it (there will be an analingus post coming sometime…). Just try things, see what feels best for her.

When her orgasm starts to build, you have a decision to make. Do you want her to cum yet? It’s yours to control. Do you want to enjoy the view, the taste, the experience some more. If so, slow down, change focus, lick inside her pussy for a few seconds. You want her to cool down a little, to back away from the precipice. The goal here is to make the orgasm as big as you can, and this type of building will be a good way to do that. Eating her pussy to orgasm is spiritual for me. I love doing it, and it shows.

The Big Finish

When you want her to cum and you know she’s getting close, she might say things to you like “I’m close” or “Just like that”. With statements like that, the instinct you are going to have fight is to speed up or press harder. Don’t change anything. If you are using your tongue on her clit with suction, keep doing exactly that. If you have a finger in her pussy as you rhythmically lick her clit, don’t speed up, don’t slow down, don’t change ANYTHING. Let her have her orgasm, and don’t stop until she’s done. I’ve found that internal stimulation can continue, but usually after the orgasm hits her, the clitoral stimulation has to stop. Just like her sucking your dick, her clit gets very sensitive after an orgasm. I would strongly suggest starting to fuck her immediately after she’s told you “no more” on her clit.

The goal is to leave her a blubbering mess. Unable to move or to speak. Having an orgasm like this will make her putty in your hands. A lot of people say that doesn’t happen or can’t, but with good communication and some practice (darn it!) it can happen.

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