Local Stores

Going to a local store will give you a chance to ask questions, and feel the products. Theses are the best places to buy sex toys. But, seeing the breadth of products available in person is always fun. It’s always easy to spot a huge dildo molded like two hands and forearms, but seeing it in person is a whole other ballgame. I know it seems weird to touch a sex toy that’s not yours. But, the store is there to help you make an informed decision. Talk to the staff. Yes, it’s embarrassing for you the first time. Communicating is a huge part of sex. If you have a goal in mind, talk to the salesperson about it. Then, you’ll get an informed opinion and some options. After you have spoken to them, walk around the store and look around. Even if this takes a few trips to become comfortable, that is OK.

Talking to the clerk has saved me on several occasions. It’s stopped me from buying junk, or buying something that isn’t what I thought it was. The clerks, in my experience, have all been very helpful in finding a toy that works for my SO. I don’t have a pussy (obviously) so knowing what works from experience is important. They help me with that when I have questions about something specific.

Lovehoney.com

Lovehoney.com is my go to store online. They have excellent customer service, great pricing, and always seem to have what I’m looking for. Joining their mailing list saves you some money too. It sounds like a paid advertisement, but I’m not affiliated with them in any way. I do have an affiliate account with them, but it is not currently linked on this site. Expect that integration sometime soon. I always shop here first. This is what I would call a “trusted site” because they carry name brands and back them with the warranty from the company or their own warranty.

Liberator.com

Liberator.com is my go to for larger things that Lovehoney may not carry. For example, I have purchased a few sex wedges and ramps from them. The sell sex furniture, like a lounger built to accommodate several fun positions. Liberator is a strong name in the industry, and has been around for a while. One of the products they no longer carry inspired me to make my own headboard with hidden restraints. They are great for toys as well, but their selection isn’t as broad as Lovehoney has. What they do carry is quality. I also have an affiliate account with them. But, it’s not something that I’ve done yet on the site. Expect that soon as well.

Etsy.com

Etsy.com is a great place to go for custom items. Once you and your partner communicate and discover something you are both into, get something custom. Personally, I have custom restraints made by Atrocity Shop and I’ve been nothing but happy with their products. I have a full underbed restraint system made by them. Very strong, and very beautiful. My SO says it’s very confortable. We did have an issue with the size of the collar, but Dirk rectified it for me in no time! Etsy has a LOT of stores for dom/sub items, custom restraints, ideas for storage, etc.

Amazon.com

Amazon.com is good for devices that you know the specific of what you want. For example, I’ve purchased a Hitachi wand on Amazon with a speed controller. Amazon is also great for things that aren’t sex specific, but make sex easier. I’ve talked about being prepared in this post. I’ve purchased towels, lube, and sex blankets from Amazon. The blankets we use to protect the bed are extremely soft and water resistant. They are actually pet blankets, but they work really well, and are a fraction of the cost of a sex blanket.

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Clitoral Stimulation

We won’t cover the ins and outs of warming up your partner as that’s been covered. Just know that foreplay is important and needs to be something that we all recognize as something that needs to be done. Typically, clitoral stimulation is generally thought of as vibrators. Now, there’s a lot of toys that use gentle suction. Also, there are also toys now that touch-stimulate the clitoris with a simulated tongue. The We-Vtibe company makes the best toys that I’ve found. Their quality is high, and their support is also excellent.

We-Vibe Sync

The We-Vibe Sync is a toy that stimulates both inside and externally for her. There’s a vibrator motor on both the part of the toy that goes inside and the part that lays outside the pussy. It’s also controllable through your phone through bluetooth. And, it’s capable of being truly remotely controlled by you through your partner’s phone. This toy can be “hands free” and inside her during sex, which is something we like. Also, I like being able to remotely control the toy, if we are out on a date or just hanging out at home.

We-Vibe Tango

We also have a We-Vibe Tango. It’s a small lipstick sized vibrator. Typically, most people associate size with power. With the Tango, this is simply not the case. Because we used the Tango so much, we wore it out and had to buy a new one. With the Tango, there’s a difference between a buzz and a rumble. With the Tango, you get a rumble. It’s also the toy of choice when we are packing light. Well, this toy and the Sync.

Magic Wand

Another toy for clitoral stimulation is the mythical Magic Wand. This toy has an interesting history. Hitachi used to own and manufacture the Magic Wand as a massage implement. Over time, Hitachi found the need to distance itself from a sex toy so they spun the company off and sold it. When I bought a Magic Wand, I bought a speed controller for it as well. Also, I would strongly suggest people get a speed controller with their Magic Wand. Only having a high-off-low switch doesn’t give you the flexibility you are going to want. This toy sees a lot of use, and is one that almost always travels with us as well. It’s powerful, it’s adjustable, and it’s easy to handle. Even in the heat of the moment.

Womanizer

The Womanizer is a toy that creates a suction against her clit. This is a pulsing sensation that gently sucks on her clit externally. Judging by some of the videos that you can find with a quick Google search, and my own experience, this toy is worth every dollar. Using is during intercourse to stimulate her externally will help her reach one powerful orgasm. It’s sort of amazing to see how quickly this little wonder works. It’s on my list of “must buy” for anyone that asks me for advice. Also, it’s one toy that always makes the trip when we go out of town.

Internal Toys

Internal toys are toys like dildos, egg vibrators, and G-spot stimulators. Dildos come in a variety of shapes and sizes. Egg vibrators also have different sizes and shapes. Eggs also have remote controls or controls on the device itself. G-spot stimulators look like vibrators with a curve. The curve is to reach up against the G-spot, where the nerves come together as a bundle.

Dildos

Remember that the pussy is a muscle, and even a large dildo will not permanently change the shape of a pussy. They make those things HUGE. But, if you communicate with your partner you can find one that works for her and you both. They make dildos that vibrate, and suction cup bases, with and without balls. If you want some really different toys, check out Bad Dragon. Having one that suction cups to a smooth surface can help you and your partner simulate a threesome, allowing her to fuck herself while giving you head. It’s also sexy as hell to watch her fuck it.

Egg Vibrators

Egg vibrators are small and shaped like eggs, hence the name. These toys can be used like any vibrator, against the external pleasure points or fully inserted into the pussy. It’s important to communicate with your partner about what they want from this toy. Fucking her with the egg inserted can feel good, but you have to be mindful of how your dick is pushing against it. Depending on your size you can hurt your partner. Get an egg vibrator with a remote control. It’s fun to change the vibration settings while it’s inside her. It’s also very important to get a toy that you can get back out, so make sure it’s got a tail of some sort that will allow you to get the toy back out of her.

G-Spot Stimulators

G-Spot stimulators typically they have some sort of external part that will stay outside your partner. Reaching inside her with a curved shape so that they can vibrate and stimulate the G-spot. They will have controls on the part of the toy that stays outside or will be remote controlled. I would strongly suggest getting one that its remotely controlled. In the heat of the moment, it’s fun to control these toys just like the egg when there’s other things happening.

Anal Toys

Anal toys and anal play are often thought of as taboo. Anal takes preparation and great communication. We’ve talked about anal sex before so I’m not going to go over all the details. But, I will remind you that towels are your friend, and you need lube. I suggest Astroglide Gel, I get mine at Wal-Mart or Amazon. Anal toys can vibrate or just be something that sits just inside.

Butt plugs have a large variety of sizes and shapes. The important thing to remember about a butt plug is that the base that stays outside the body is flared. This flaring is what keeps the toy from going inside the body, and is 100% needed, unless you want to visit the ER with a funny story. Butt plugs come in lots of sizes and shapes. Some are remote controlled, some even come with a cock ring attached and insert into the mans ass. There are even some that inflate with a pump. Anal toys can be left in during sex as well, some women really enjoy the “full” sensation. If you get one with a handle as part of the base, gently pulling on it when she’s cumming is a nice sensation as well.

Toys are fun

I’m trying to show that toys can be very fun! Having fun pleasing your partner is something we should all try to do. It’s not as simple as “happy wife, happy life” which I find reductive and counter productive to a healthy relationship. It’s more about having a happy healthy sex life means that you should be trying to please your partner and she should be trying to please you. Toys are just one thing that can augment this. But, it’s so important to keep in mind that you are not being replaced with toys. You are augmenting what you can do with your body, hands, and mouth with a toy.

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