Small Items

Inexpensive

Small and inexpensive items used in bondage don’t have to be poor quality. With small items, some of what you buy won’t even be sexual in nature. For example, a dull pizza disk cutter is a great tool to stimulate a blindfolded and bound submissive. Something like a paddle doesn’t have to cost a lot of money for a quality toy. When looking for a quality toy, I trust the reviews at a most sites. Examples of other inexpensive toys include under bed tie down sets (That are not leather), or basic body bonding sets, like this neck collar wrist binder. Also, if you are in a dom/sub relationship and your sub wears a collar, you can get day collars very inexpensively that are tasteful and well made. Also, there’s low temperature candles that can be fun too, dripping wax on your partner is hot.

Expensive

Expensive small items for BDSM are items like hand made leather cuff sets, body bonding sets, or metal bondage gear. When you spend this much money, you want to find a good vendor. I have used Atrocity Shop on Etsy and have had great experience. They made me a custom leather restraint set that is both comfortable and easy to use. It was over $400 for the set, and it’s all small things. Some other expensive toys can be solid glass dildos (fun for temperature play with your partner) or, high quality vibrators and stimulators like the Tango from We-Vibe tend to be a little expensive (but so worth it).

Large Items

Large items tend to be expensive. There’s no large item that I would consider inexpensive. Bondage equipment in the large size are things like spanking benches, x-crosses, restraining tables, and stockades. The selection is pretty expansive. Once you and your partner have communicated what your limits are, buying something like this can be a fun experience.

Spanking Benches

Spanking benches are generally custom made to fit or very adjustable so that your partner is comfortable when bound to it. There are 2 basic kinds. One that looks like a sawhorse with adjustable padded mounts on the sides for knees and elbows, and a padded top to lie face down on. The second type is an inclined platform that has a kneeling area behind the platform. Also, it has padded areas for the elbows and strapping points for all of each platform similar to the sawhorse style. Make sure your partner is involved in the purchase so that they can find one that seems comfortable for them as well.

X-crosses

This is a standing sex toy. Your partner is strapped to the board, hands above her head, feet spread. Buying some of the inexpensive toys listed above to play with her in strapped to the X-cross can be fun. Teasing your partner with a vibrator. Kneel in front of her and taste her. Play with her clit with your fingers. Bring her close to orgasm then stop. But, while you do this, make sure she knows you will bring her to orgasm. By making sure she knows you won’t disappoint her, the playing can continue for quite a while. The X-cross can be built to lie down with your partner attached as well.

Restraining Tables

Restraint tables are all over and come in many different sizes and shapes. The basic form is a padded strong table with some attachment points along the sides. But, they do get more complicated. By adding holes for her face to lie face down, adding restraining points along the board itself, you can find varying levels of complexity. So, you can get a table with a lot of flexibility. Having the holes in many places allows your partner to get into many positions. For example, you can pull her to the edge and strap her down with her legs bent to gain access to her pussy or ass while on the strapped down.

Stockades

Stockades can be as simple as a board with a neck hole and arm holes to something built with a stand to hold her bent over or standing. There are many different kinds of stockades, so we will call them anything that is designed to hold your arms and neck together for restraint. When shopping for a stockade, find one that fits your space and your wants as a couple. Buy one that fits what you both want. So, get creative. A set of stockades could be mounted to the back of an X-cross stand.

Having fun with this is the point. Buying these toys should be decided on by both of you.

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Communicating

Communication is very important. I know I talk about it a lot, but just read the posts linked above about how important it is. Sex is important, and should be given that level of importance in your life. Communicate your desires, wants, and things you just want to try. Then, listen to your partner about they want out of your shared sex life. Discussing things will probably show you more in common than you think! Don’t be afraid to discuss things you might think are taboo, like anal or domination. Also, don’t make your partner feel weird about expressing a desire you might not like. Being honest requires being vulnerable, and feelings can get hurt here. Find out what you each like so you can spice up your sex during quarantine, and after!

Places

Now that you have some idea of what you and your partner are in to, discuss some specifics. Places you haven’t fucked yet should be on the list. Maybe you want a blowjob on the back porch or you need to Christen every room in the house. Both of those are excellent and run ideas. Be very careful about public sex acts, no one wants to register as a sex offender for the rest of their lives. Some other ideas to spur your thoughts are outside sex, fitting room at a department store, family restrooms, car sex almost anywhere, office buildings you may have access to, the ideas are endless. There’s an article on Paired Life that has more great ideas!

Acts

Sex acts are where you can spice things up in the comfort of your own home. Setup the bedroom for something romantic, but go all out. Because you communicated both of your wants and needs, this is where all that comes in to play. Maybe you want to be dominated or dominate your partner. The point is, make use of this time. Turn off the TV, bend her over the kitchen table a fuck her. Don’t sit and waste the time, take her to bed and try something on your list or hers (preferably both!). There are a lot of articles online with ideas for sex. Just remember, not everything needs to be spontaneous. Grabbing a quickie might just be what the doctor ordered in the middle of the day. If you work from home, give your partner permission to give you head during work hours. Talk to your partner about your household being “Free Use” where one or both of you are fully open to what the other wants 24/7 (within your own limits).

Toys and Equipment

Mail ordering from places like Liberator or Love Honey. I don’t have many ideas for male toys, I’ve read good things about the Fleshlight. My thought is that it would probably feel good, but cleanup would turn me off. However, for women, I have a small collection that continues to grow. Sex during quarantine is a prime time to experiment!

Toys

Having a small collection of toys for her is probably one of the best investments you can make. I would recommend that you get a good vibrator. The Magic Wand with a speed controller is a great place to start. It plugs into the wall so there’s no charging to worry about, and with the speed controller you can ram ramp up and dial back the vibrations to edge her along. The Womanizer is another must have toy. The reviews all said that it can induce an orgasm in minutes. It uses pulsed suction to stimulate her clit. I would also recommend a dildo with a suction base (talk about size with your partner). Having a remote controlled vibrator is a fun “date” toy too. We-Vibe makes several great ones. I would also recommend getting a good quality butt plug with a flared base so you don’t lose it!

Equipment

When I’m talking about equipment, I’m talking about items that are larger and more complicated than toys. For example, bondage equipment or sex swings, things like that. When it comes to bondage, there is a lot of equipment out there that would require its own room for bondage. Because this is about sex during quarantine, we will discuss things you can order and use now. For example, an underbed restraint system like this one is a good start. If you enjoy that, I would recommend going to Etsy and getting something a bit nicer from a place like Atrocity Shop. Both the nicer set and the inexpensive set can be hidden under the bed or under the mattress when not in use. Don’t forget you can tie her to the headboard as well using cuffs.

Sex Swings are decidedly harder to hide, but it is possible. Your Tango has a good article on how to hide the ceiling hook or support for your swing. So far, no one has noticed mine. Sex Swings come in a variety of types. Whichever you choose, make sure it’s secure for your partner and comfortable as well. I would recommend always getting the head support as well so she can lay back and not worry about supporting her head. These do take some effort to get used to, but they are fun.

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As we talk bondage, it doesn’t have to be expensive or complicated. You can get an inexpensive under bed set that allows you to tie your SO to the bed for under $40. Most of these sets come with cuffs that detach, allowing you to cuff the hands together as well. Bondage sex doesn’t have to be anything rough, but it is submissive on the part of the one being tied down. She has to trust you completely, and you have to earn that trust.

Sensual Bondage

So again, let’s talk bondage, tie those ladies to the bed. Getting her tied down doesn’t have to be a clinical event. Place the bondage cuffs around her, kissing and touching every exposed part as you do. She should be naked before you tie her down so you don’t have to undo anything to strip her. As you cuff her and connect the cuffs to the restraints, gently rub and kiss each part as you go. Touch her as you move. Talk to her about what you are doing and where you are going. Tell her she’s a good girl (or whatever your dynamic allows). Enjoy every inch of her skin. Show her through touch what she makes you feel inside when you see her.

Don’t make it too tight, you want her to move some, and you want her legs to be able to come up so you can fuck her. But keep touching her, staying close enough that she can almost touch you, or only touch your dick. Play with her pussy some. So if you have a vibrator, turn it on and lay it on her clit. Play with and kiss her breasts and nipples. Her body is yours, place your hand on her neck and watch her head lift in response to expose her neck.

Stimulate Her Bound Body

There’s all sorts of things you can do now. She should be begging for stimulation. Touch her everywhere, never take your fingers off her when moving around your prey. Wet and dry things, kiss her randomly. Feed her your dick (if you are kneeling by her head). It’s important that you don’t stop touching or stimulating her. Your goal is to make her beg for your dick.

There should be a point where you can’t take it any more and neither can she. She will beg to be fucked. So, please her, maybe after teasing for a second. Slide your cock along her wet pussy. Then push it into her. It’s important that you enjoy the teasing too. This is for BOTH of you to find pleasure. Relish in her reactions to your touch, to your dick. Fill that pussy up with your cock until she’s pulling against the restraints. She’s going to want to touch you and feel you cumming in her, don’t disappoint.

There’s lots of ways you can tie her to the bed depending on the setup you buy. Use your imaginations and see what feels good and is fun for you both! Don’t limit yourself to the examples, have fun. So, look up other ways you both might be interested in trying things.

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