Styles of Blowjobs

While there are many many styles of blowjobs, we will discuss what the bulk of us see in porn or are likely to get at home.  Deepthroating, partial, mouth and hand, don’t forget the balls, and the always funny “gluck-gluck 9000”.

Deepthroat

Deepthroat is where the giver takes your entire dick into her mouth.  Typically, there’s no gag reflex and she (or you) will have to push past the “throat barrier”.   There are many tutorials to learn to deep throat online.  Here is a good one the yourtango.com website.   Another example can be found on the Instyle.com website.  Just like sex, the giver of the blowjob will likely need to warm up to this.  Really, expecting this might be a bit much.  According to the InStyle article linked above, only 37% of people don’t have a gag reflex.  The sounds of a deepthroat typically include a little gagging, so be prepared for that sound.

Deepthroat is one of those types of blowjobs that is more “porn” than “everyday”.  As always, communicating with your partner is the best way to handle discussing this particular act.  Maybe she can, maybe she can’t.  Communicating is the key!

Partial

When your partner only really puts the tip or the beginning of the shaft in her mouth, that’s partial.  She knows that the vast majority of the nerves on your penis are in the first 1.5-2 inches.  So, she’s using her mouth to stimulate where the most nerves are.  She can use her tongue to press against your frenulum (there is a large number of nerves here).  She can suck and lick.  Some people call this a “no hands” blowjob.  If so, it can include deepthroating but not necessarily.

Mouth and Hand

The mouth and hand blowjob is the most common.  It’s what you see in porn, and what you are likely to encounter in real life.  She puts as much as she can, regularly, in her mouth and stimulates the rest of your penis with her hands.  If you close your eyes, I would challenge you to figure out where her hands are versus her lips.  Using a lot of saliva helps with this type, making the shaft slick for her hands.

Don’t Forget the Balls

While she’s down there, don’t neglect the balls.  Discuss with her what you like.  Sometimes, it feels good to have the balls sucked on gently, pulled into her mouth.  Other times, just licking and sucking on the sack feels good.  Encourage her to explore and see what you like and feels good.  They have a lot of nerve endings as well, and it feels good to have them played with.

Gluck-Gluck-9000

Barstool sports owns and runs many podcasts.  “Call Her Daddy” had a particular episode called “Gluck-Gluck 9000” where the hosts described their blowjob style as Gluck-Gluck 9000.  The best description I can find is on reddit, where /u/sonicdooscar describes it like this:
“Grasp one hand with your pointer finger touching your thumb around his dick, and above that your other hand in the same position. Grip only with your thumb and pointers. Put your mouth on his tip. Once you spit on it a bit and its wet, one hand will go clockwise and the other counterclockwise. As you do that, go up and down on his tip. I call it the Gluck Gluck 3000 for some reason though not 9000.”

This sounds to me like an exaggerated, noisey version of using mouth and hands.  Among blowjob styles and positions, I think that this is probably one of the most known (behind deepthroating, which it seems like everyone knows).  “Call Her Daddy” has had some drama, but returned with one host and seems to have a strong following.

Throat Fucking

Throat fucking is where you are using her mouth and throat like a fleshlight.  Holding her head and fucking it.  It’s also called face fucking.  This is typically loud and very messy.  Makeup runs, saliva gets everywhere, it’s a wet mess of an event.  This is something that you need to discuss before attempting.  This is a dom/sub event, and you need to heed my advice on dom/sub relationships found here.

Postitions

Blowjob styles and positions can cover a lot of ground.  Pretty much any position that you can get into where your partners mouth can reach your dick can be a blowjob position.  We will discuss. a few of the more common ones.  These different positions put her jaw and throat in different levels of alignment, and can change the way your penis goes into her mouth.  This will change the way the blowjob feels based on her position.  It moves her tongue around, changes neck and jaw angles, and allows your penis more or less restricted entrance into her mouth.

69

Ah yes, the good old 69.  I bet you just giggled in your head.  Society has made this a funny number.  But, let’s be honest, it’s a great position.  It allows you. to access your partners pussy and ass while she sucks your dick.  69 is generally done with her lying on you, her head at your crotch, her pussy over your mouth.  It gives both of you something to do, and allows you to please each other.  In my experience, I want to eat pussy or get a blowjob, but I still want a 69 from time to time.

On Her Knees

My guess is that this is the most or the second most practiced in day to day life for most couples.  This is where you would be seated or standing, and she gets on her knees and gives you a blowjob.  It keeps her hands free to play with your shaft or balls.  This position also allows you to watch as your dick disappears into her mouth, and use your hands on her head as well.  Communicate before you do too much guiding, not every girl wants or likes her face fucked.  This position has a dom/sub component to it.  While there is an argument for who is the dominant one (that my SO would argue with me about for sure), I can say that it feels dominant to receive a blowjob like this.

Roadhead

This can be very dangerous.  There’s a storyline in “American Gods” where a couple was performing this and had an accident.  The women bit the penis off her partner during the accident.  Typically, the woman will lay across the car and give a blowjob to the driver of the car.  Obviously, this is very distracting.  Of all the blowjob styles and positions, this is the one that I would suggest you second guess or just park for.  It is exciting, but dangerous (which is probably why it’s exciting).

Head Hanging Off the Bed

This is a very submissive position in my opinion.  She lays on the bed with her head hanging off, either on her back or stomach.  This gives you approximate access to her mouth while standing next to the bed.  This is basically a face fucking position.  Let her guide you with her hands on your legs both pace and depth.  She has to breathe!  If you are able to deepthroat your partner, you can see your dick make her throat bulge out in this position on her back.  This position with her on her back gives her excellent access to your balls as well.

Lying on the Bed

This is what I would expect to be the most common of all the blowjob styles and positions.  You lie down, and she makes herself comfortable and gives you a blowjob.  This allows you varied access to her body as well, at her discretion.  Also, this allows her to give you different sensations based on where and how she lays.  Because she’s on the bed with you, you will both be more comfortable as well.

Spit or Swallow

This is the finale.  The final result of most blowjobs.  Whether your partner spits or swallows is up to them, of course.  But, your opinion should be heard on this as well.  Suddenly stopping all the stimulus that oral provides can ruin a good orgasm, or take an orgasm from great to just OK.  This all ties to the mental part of a blowjob we’ll discuss below, but blowjobs are about accepting and a desire to please.  To me, it would be like orally getting your partner to the edge of an awesome orgasm, and just as she’s about to roll over the edge you stop stimulating her, or switch to fingering.

Mental Stimulation

Blowjobs are as much mental as they are physical.  Getting a blowjob is a very accepting thing to do.  Your partner is accepting the most vulnerable, genetically speaking one of the most important, parts of your body into her mouth.  She’s working to please you in a giving, unselfish (this is arguable with some women) way.  the mental stimulus and the acceptance culminates in the orgasm.  By keeping your dick in her mouth and swallowing, she’s not just saying “I want to please you” she’s saying “And I want all of you, even your ejaculate, inside me”.  It’s even more so when she smiles as she swallows and talks about how much she likes it.  Women say again and again that men being verbal is a turn on, but it’s both sides being verbal.  Not just men.

Conclusion

Blowjob styles and positions are varied and all are awesome.  It’s important to know that this is FAR from an exhaustive list of ways, places, styles, and positions a blowjob can happen.  The only bad blowjob, IMO, is one that uses teeth.

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So, the time has come. She’s hinted and moved that way. Her head is getting close to your dick, you can feel her breath on you. She finally touched your cock to her lips, opens her mouth and you gently slide….into her teeth. Now, you need to have a good talk about blowjobs.

Don’t Criticize

She knows your cock hit her teeth, she can feel it. You should just tell her if something is uncomfortable. Scraping against teeth falls into this category for sure, so just gently tell her. “Hey, I love you giving me head, but I hit your teeth. Maybe we can try some different things?” A statement like that opens her up to talk about why you hit her teeth. If your dick is too big, then you might just have to accept it. It’s possible she’s having a bad day and her jaw hurts. That’s OK too, but communicating about it is the best solution. For example, my SO focuses on my head, and uses her hand for the rest of the shaft. BJ’s are amazing, and I honestly couldn’t tell with my eyes closed where her lips stop and her hands start.

The important things to keep in mind when you are having this discussion are:
1) Don’t make her feel bad about what’s happened, that will take away her pleasure in pleasing you
2) Always have suggestions as to how she can change what’s she’s doing to please you better

Making her feel bad about what’s happened will make her feel bad. She was giving you a blowjob because she wanted to make you feel good, and failed. So you have to be gentle when you talk to her about it. You can’t just jump in with “that wasn’t very good, you used your teeth”. Saying anything like that is unproductive. What you need to say are things like “That felt great, and I love you wanting to please me, but let’s work together to find a way that feels better for me” or “I love your desire to please me, but my dick hit your teeth. Let’s try to find a position where that doesn’t happen”. Which leads us to the second point.

Teach in a Positive Way

Always have suggestions ready to help guide her when she’s doing something you don’t like. You will need to work with her to get it right, she does not have a dick and doesn’t know what it feels like to have one sucked. So, you may have to communicate some basic things to her about your anatomy, like where you are most sensitive, things like that. Make sure you have your personal preferences known as well. You need to know what you like and be able to articulate it so you can suggest to her what feels good for you! Not knowing means you two need to work together learn what feels good and works for both of you. I know, it’ll be a burden for you to have practice blowjobs, but together you can do it!

Some things that you can suggest are having her focus on the head of your cock because that’s where the most nerves are. You can have her use a lot of spit, which will help lube everything and slide into her mouth easier. Using her hands in conjunction with her mouth is a great thing to talk about too.

Relax and Enjoy!

“She’s giving you head, now what’s your job?” is where we started, so let’s talk about what to do when there’s not been anything wrong. Your job is to relax and enjoy the blowjob. Be vocal about it when she’s doing something you like. Let her know if something hurts so she’ll stop. She wants to pleasure you when she’s giving you head, so just enjoy it. You should always communicate when you are going to cum. I can promise you that it’s a surprise she does not want.

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