Facials

Giving a facial is a dominant act. You stop fucking, and you tell her you want to cum on her face. You both maneuver into a position where you are over her (dominance). One of you has to continue to stimulate your dick (hands or mouth) until you are ready to cum, then you aim and let loose. Some women really enjoy this, some tolerate it, and some hate it. Cum is difficult to get out of hair, and burns the eyes (or so porn has told me). There’s also cleanup, which is something you should be prepared for.

Body Shots

Cumming on her body feels like marking her. It feels like “This is mine, I have marked her as mine”. In my experience, it also turns her on to watch you cum on her. It is very satisfying to cumo on her stomach or back (depending on the position you are in!) and watch your cum mark her. Have her pump your dick with her hands to finish you onto her body. Deciding where do you want to cum on her is fun too. Cum on her breasts, her stomach, her ass, her back, or her feet.

Inside Her

In Her Mouth

Cumming in her mouth is another dominant act in my opinion. I think there’s an argument saying that having the penis in your mouth gives you the power, but I would say giving a blowjob is a submissive act. Everyone will have their own opinion on this. A lot of people do this because it’s pregnancy safe, and requires little cleanup. This is my opinion, but spitters are quitters.

In Her Ass

Cumming in her ass obviously takes preparation for anal. Assuming all that has been done, cumming in her ass is something that feels incredible. In my experience the orgasms from anal for her are much stronger than vaginal ones. When you are asked “Where do you want to cum?”, you can reply with something really aggressive dominant like “I want to fill your ass up”. From what I’ve read online some women can feel your dick pulsing inside their ass, and some cannot. When we have anal sex, my partner can feel my dick pulsing and loves it. There is a bit of cleanup involved with anal in general, adding a little bit of ejaculateisn’t going to change that.

In Her Pussy

When you are comfortable with your partner and you are comfortable with the birth control methods being used, this is the Holy Grail. Biologically, we are wired to cum in our partners pussy. She will feel you pulsing, you will feel her squeezing and pumping. Having orgasms together is incredible, and I would hope that everyone gets to experience that in their lifetime. Cleanup isn’t bad depending on your ejaculate volume.

Being asked where you want to cum is hot. Sex is messy, cum is messy. Preparation is one of the keys to great sex. As always, if you have a question or a comment please feel free to contact us on the Contact Us page! We love feedback!

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I have no doubt that you’ve tried vaginal and oral, trying anal sex seems like the next step. The key to anal sex is preparation. Expect things to get dirty and messy. So lets start with the prepping the bed.

Preparing for Anal

Gather up your lube, a couple of small hand towels, some baby wipes, and a large bath towel. A side note about baby wipes, this should be in your normal sex “kit”. Keep them around for cleanup after any kind of sex. Because we know things are going to get messy, lay the bath towel down on the bed before sex so she can lay on it. With our towel, we fold it in half so it’ll soak up more and protect the bed. I put the small hand towels and the lube off to the side of the bed where I can reach them. With them that close, I can use one towel to wipe the lube mess off my hand. The other towel is where I lay the lube bottle to protect the bed.

Anal isn’t something you can just “do” for most couples. Start with the same build up, teasing, and vaginal/oral that you generally do. Starting this way will really get her warmed up. It’ll help to get a couple of butt plugs to get her used to having something in her ass. You can also use your fingers, start small and use LOTS of lube. I would recommend starting on her back and lifting her legs up. You can put a pillow under the towel to hold her hips up as well.

As you warm her up, use your fingers on her ass. Put lube on them, rub the lube around her asshole, lube the length of your finger, not just the tip. Doing that will ensure that lube gets inside her ass where it really needs to be, not just on the outside.

Initial Penetration

Once she thinks she’s ready, you can lube up your dick. Do not just push it into her ass. You have to go slowly, at least at first until she has time to adjust. So lube up the tip of your dick, and lube up her asshole, and keep the lube handy because you will need more. Push against her asshole, and tell her that she needs to push like she’s trying to poop a little. It’s counter intuitive to do this, but this actually opens up her asshole for you to enter. Once the head of your dick breaches the opening, STOP.

You’ve done it. You are in her ass. Now, you have to let her adjust. It’s very likely that you just hurt her a little, and she’s breathing trying to control and pain and adjust. Take this opportunity to play with her clit, make her feel pleasure from somewhere to compliment the stretching of her asshole tight around your cock. It’s always a good idea to take this moment to put some more lube on your dick that is exposed right now. That will keep the lube inside her evenly distributed.

Once she tells you she’s ready, slowly start inching in and out. This will feel incredible. Keep touching and playing with her clit unless she asks you not to. After a few minutes, your dick will be completely inside her ass. Hold it there for a second and if you can, flex your kegel muscle to move your dick. She will feel this. The next time you pull back, pull out and lube up some more. This is a lot of lube, and that’s OK, she needs it. You are better off having way too much than not enough.

Go Slow Until She OK’s Faster

Pushing your dick back into her ass, you’ll need to be careful again. Just like the first time, she needs to adjust, but it should be a faster adjustment this time. When she’s ready, you can really start stroking your full length. If you have a vibrator, put it on her clit. You are fucking her ass at this point, so congratulations! At this point, you and your partner need to decide some things, like where you are going to cum. Inside is fine, it’s not a problem to cum in her ass. There’s no risk of pregnancy. Once you have both cum, it’s time to clean up.

Cleanup After Anal

Grab the extra towel and use it to wrap it around your dick. Use the baby wipes on her, but there are some things to remember. NEVER wipe back to front. We never want to put anything from her ass into her pussy. That’s how you give her a urinary tract infection. Always get a fresh baby wipe when you wipe her pussy. Use as many as needed to avoid cross-contamination.

I always find that it’s cleanup is a really good time to communicate with your woman, as I discussed in this blog post. As I stated in that post, communication is absolutely key to a healthy and satisfying relationship. So talk about it, talk about what you liked and what she liked.

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