Head, Neck and Face Sweet Spots

We will start at the top. Her face and head are covered in hot spots.  You can gently touch her almost anywhere on her face.  Dragging your fingertips might be something she enjoys and turns her on.  Lips are an obvious area to pay attention to.  Kiss her all over her face.  Paying attention to her earlobes and behind her ears as well.

Her neck deserves special attention.  Kissing and touching her neck is a real turn on.  Some women like being grabbed and or choked.  Discuss this with her before you try it.  Communicating is very important!  There is a small part of this post about choking.  However, the neck is typically a very erogenous zone.

Her Extremities Erogenous Zones

Think of all the places we typically protect.  The wrist, the crook of the elbow the backs of her knees, the shoulders.  These are all erogenous zones.  During foreplay, kiss her in these areas to get her motor running.  These are her hot spots.  Your partner may dislike some touching in some areas, so you need to pay attention to her reaction to your actions.

During sex, grabbing her wrists is sometimes a turn on.  Be careful with this.   You need to have communicated about this before so that she isn’t surprised by being restrained.  Again, communication is key.  It’s not all about being rough either.  Being gentle during sex is just as awesome and fun as being rough!

Her Core

The erogenous zones on her core (except for the genitals) are breasts her back.  Touch and kiss all around her breasts.  Don’t make a b-line for her nipples.  Everything in due time.  Kiss and caress under and around her breasts.  Gently touch, using your knowledge of how she responds to lead you.  Let her guide you without her consciously having to guide you.

If she’s lying on her front, then her back is where you are going to work.  Kiss your way down her back, paying attention to the area right under her butt.  This area called the gluteal fold is sensitive.

Genital Erogenous Zone

This is the obvious one.  This, like her breasts, you cannot just go at it.  Warm up!  The inside of the thighs, the labia, the clit are all there to play with.  Kiss them, touch them gently, lick them.  When you and your partner discussed this, she should have discussed this with you.  Pay attention to her reactions to what you are doing to guide you.  This is universal advice.

In summary, remember to watch your partner for cues as to how to please her.  Know the areas of her body that are more sensitive than others.  Learn what she likes, and do that.  Often.  Lots of these places you can touch in public without raising an eyebrow too.  Her shoulders, her wrists, the small of her back are all totally acceptable in mixed company.

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Grafenberg Spot Anatomy

The g-spot is typically just inside the vagina, on the inside front wall.  If your partner is lying down on her back, insert a finger inside her with your palm up.  Feel what is the top of the inside of the vagina in this position.  For the first roughly 1-3 inches, there is a spongy texture.  This texture is the g-spot area.  Anatomically, this area is an erectile tissue that surrounds the urethra.  It is close to the erectile tissue in our penises.

As we know from the clitoral discussion linked above, you can see that the clitoris passes over and wraps partially around the urethra and that erectile tissue.  So, rubbing this tissue not only stimulates the nerves in the erectile tissue, it also stimulates the clitoris from the inside.

Visit the porn website of your choice, and search the site for “how to make a woman squirt”.  Once you’ve found a suitable video, notice that in all of them they are stimulating the area we are discussing.  Some technique is different for sure, but the basic anatomy that these women are having stimulated is the same.  They are stimulating the erectile tissue in the spongy area, and the inside of the clitoris.

G-Spot versus Groove Tunnel

There is a new name of the G-spot that is a better description.  The new name is the “groove tunnel”.  The new name makes sense to me as it’s more of a tube or sleeve than a single spot.  This article has a good discussion about this.  Because it’s more of an “area” than a single spot and it’s tunnel shaped, the groove tunnel is an apt name.  Although I’m not sure the name will ever catch on, it’s more descriptive for sure!

Stimulating the Groove Tunnel

As we have discussed in the past, don’t rush into anything.  Foreplay will never not be important.  You need to have properly warmed up your partner, and read the anatomy section above.  Get in between her legs or lie next to her.  Stimulate her whole body.  Touch and caress her breasts, her skin everywhere.   Work your way to her pussy, touching around until you get to her clit.  stimulate that for a little while.  Bring her up and down on her path to an orgasm.  Don’t frustrate her, but work her up then down.

You should know your partner by now, what she likes and doesn’t.  You are going to add something to your session.  Put one finger inside her, palm up.  Gently stimulate her using pressure on the roof of her vagina, maybe a “come here” motion.  As she gets more turned on, use two fingers.  Pay attention to your partner as she gets close to orgasm.  It may feel like she’s going to pee.  You are going to have to tell her to just relax.  Let it happen.  If this is something that you’ve never done with your partner, you need to be prepared for a big orgasm.

The Orgasm

Once her orgasm is close, you can really apply some pressure.  The groove tunnel you are pressing in is very strong.  You’ll be surprised how hard you can stimulate here.  She’s going to have a lot of very strong feelings and her orgasm should make her whole body rock.  When her orgasm is done, you have to stop.  You will know, she will fight you.  We all get too sensitive after an orgasm.  Going from pleasure to pain in a very short time.  Be sure to follow her led here.  She will communicate if she wants you to touch her or not.

Aftercare

Always take care of your partner after an intense session.  Because this was likely very intense for her, get her some water and some baby wipes (because you know to be prepared with your sex kit).  Hold her, let her quietly process the intensity of what she’s just hopefully experienced.

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So, once she’s naked, you should never stop touching her. I’m going to assume that this session is not a quickie. But, outside of that one caveat, my assumption is that you don’t have a time constraint. Momentum is your friend when you are building up to the actual fuck. Touch can and will build this before you even touch an erogenous zone.

 

Drag your fingers across her body. Bring your hands along her face and touch her ears and behind them. If you are into bondage, drag your fingers down her arms and let her play with your dick while you cuff her and lock her into the restraint. Be careful not to touch her in places that tickle her, that would ruin the momentum and foreplay we are building.

I’m assuming that you have communicated with your significant other about what you both expect. If not, you need to do that. Several posts about communication for details on that are at the link above.

Since you know what her likes and dislikes are, use that. Make sure you are following the details of what she discussed with you. Don’t touch the places she tells you she doesn’t like being touched at. Touching her is, in my opinion, the most important part of foreplay. Touching and talking.

I’ve talked about touching before, and ideas on how to do that in foreplay. Women don’t work like must us men do, ready to go at the drop of a hat. We have to warm them up, and get the motor running. Touching is a tool we can use to do this. Make her beg, dripping wet and ready for us. I cannot imagine having a dry pussy and trying to fuck. That just sounds painful for her!

We’ve talked about using your fingers. Now we should discuss other things we can touch them with to keep things interesting. Temperature play is something some couples venture into. Drag a piece of ice over her nipples, then gently suck on them. The temperature change is a turn on. Use things with different textures, like a feather tickler or a Wartenburg pinwheel to vary things. I’ve used a pizza wheel before, and a silicon basting brush too. Makeup brushes also give her a different stimulus as well.

Learning to touch and caress her is something we all need to learn to do. Sex is not a race, take your time. Never stop touching her once her skin is exposed. Foreplay is the beginning of the buildup for her, and is possibly more important than the sex itself. It can and does make or break the experience for her. You can see in the picture above, her lips are engorged and she’s clearly turned on. You can almost hear her moan from his touch.

The goal of every sex session or scene is mutual pleasure. Knowing how to get your partner there is, in my opinion, the most important part of the sex act in it’s totality. Meaning foreplay is THAT important. Sex is always fun, but sex with a partner that’s mad with desire and begging for your dick, that should be the goal every single time!

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