What’s the best bondage equipment and tools? Bondage equipment comes in many varieties and price points. From small items, like floggers and collars, to pieces of furniture like a spanking bench or stocks. Prices range from inexpensive to very expensive. Quality also ranges from very poorly made to items that can be passed down through generations (though that would be weird). Bondage requires excellent communication, so make sure you and your partner have communicated. So, make sure you have hard and soft limits in place, and have a stop/safe word and action as discussed here.
Small Items
Inexpensive
Small and inexpensive items used in bondage don’t have to be poor quality. With small items, some of what you buy won’t even be sexual in nature. For example, a dull pizza disk cutter is a great tool to stimulate a blindfolded and bound submissive. Something like a paddle doesn’t have to cost a lot of money for a quality toy. When looking for a quality toy, I trust the reviews at a most sites. Examples of other inexpensive toys include under bed tie down sets (That are not leather), or basic body bonding sets, like this neck collar wrist binder. Also, if you are in a dom/sub relationship and your sub wears a collar, you can get day collars very inexpensively that are tasteful and well made. Also, there’s low temperature candles that can be fun too, dripping wax on your partner is hot.
Expensive
Expensive small items for BDSM are items like hand made leather cuff sets, body bonding sets, or metal bondage gear. When you spend this much money, you want to find a good vendor. I have used Atrocity Shop on Etsy and have had great experience. They made me a custom leather restraint set that is both comfortable and easy to use. It was over $400 for the set, and it’s all small things. Some other expensive toys can be solid glass dildos (fun for temperature play with your partner) or, high quality vibrators and stimulators like the Tango from We-Vibe tend to be a little expensive (but so worth it).
Large Items
Large items tend to be expensive. There’s no large item that I would consider inexpensive. Bondage equipment in the large size are things like spanking benches, x-crosses, restraining tables, and stockades. The selection is pretty expansive. Once you and your partner have communicated what your limits are, buying something like this can be a fun experience.
Spanking Benches
Spanking benches are generally custom made to fit or very adjustable so that your partner is comfortable when bound to it. There are 2 basic kinds. One that looks like a sawhorse with adjustable padded mounts on the sides for knees and elbows, and a padded top to lie face down on. The second type is an inclined platform that has a kneeling area behind the platform. Also, it has padded areas for the elbows and strapping points for all of each platform similar to the sawhorse style. Make sure your partner is involved in the purchase so that they can find one that seems comfortable for them as well.
X-crosses
This is a standing sex toy. Your partner is strapped to the board, hands above her head, feet spread. Buying some of the inexpensive toys listed above to play with her in strapped to the X-cross can be fun. Teasing your partner with a vibrator. Kneel in front of her and taste her. Play with her clit with your fingers. Bring her close to orgasm then stop. But, while you do this, make sure she knows you will bring her to orgasm. By making sure she knows you won’t disappoint her, the playing can continue for quite a while. The X-cross can be built to lie down with your partner attached as well.
Restraining Tables
Restraint tables are all over and come in many different sizes and shapes. The basic form is a padded strong table with some attachment points along the sides. But, they do get more complicated. By adding holes for her face to lie face down, adding restraining points along the board itself, you can find varying levels of complexity. So, you can get a table with a lot of flexibility. Having the holes in many places allows your partner to get into many positions. For example, you can pull her to the edge and strap her down with her legs bent to gain access to her pussy or ass while on the strapped down.
Stockades
Stockades can be as simple as a board with a neck hole and arm holes to something built with a stand to hold her bent over or standing. There are many different kinds of stockades, so we will call them anything that is designed to hold your arms and neck together for restraint. When shopping for a stockade, find one that fits your space and your wants as a couple. Buy one that fits what you both want. So, get creative. A set of stockades could be mounted to the back of an X-cross stand.
Having fun with this is the point. Buying these toys should be decided on by both of you.
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