One of the questions I see online often is “how can I make a blowjob a great blowjob?” so let’s address that. The most common responses are specific physical things that your partner can do. For example, pressure on the frenulum, try to deepthroat, not forgetting the balls, etc. Those things are specific to each person in my opinion. But, we will go over them. The physical things are pretty straightforward. The things like desire, want, sounds that your partner makes. Those are the things that make the biggest difference in my experience. I think the one word of advice would be “enthusiasm’.
Physical Actions
Attentive Great Blowjob
Physical actions that make a great blowjob will vary from man to man. I would expect some level of communication to have happened between you and your partner. This needs to include both of your likes and dislikes during oral sex. So, pacing, pressure, depth, suction, and handwork are physical sensations that make a difference. For pacing, the sensations should build to the orgasm based on how you are reacting. Because all of these things will be specific to you, you need to communicate them to your partner before or during the blowjob.
Great blowjobs will have a variety of sensations for you. Pacing, pressure, depth, suction, and handwork will all change through the blowjob. Typically, I’ve read that in the beginning a good slow pace works best, with light suction. Then, as things progress, adding more handwork, deeper depth and more suction is OK. In the end, when you are cumming most sensation on the head needs to stop with light suction (should she allow you to cum in her mouth. Not much better for me personally than when she swallows.
Finding a partner that will pay attention to your balls is always fun. Having her move around and incorporate more than just your dick, kissing and licking around, sucking gently on your balls, that is awesome.
Enthusiasm
Attitude comes out in the desire your partner shows in pleasuring you. When your partner shows enthusiasm to sucking your dick, that is what makes a great blowjob. When she wants your dick in her mouth, truly WANTS it, there’s not wrong way. She will want to please you, do it the way you like. Enthusiasm is a huge component of what makes a good blowjob a great blowjob.
Want and Desire
Want and desire are important in a great blowjob as well. Want and desire manifest in the enthusiasm and energy given to the blowjob. No one wants a partner that isn’t into the act. That is, unless that is your fetish and that is what you want. Having want and desire will show in the eye contact, the attention paid to your reactions. Your body language, moans and words of pleasure should be enough to show an attentive partner what works and doesn’t with you.
Verbal and Non-Verbal
Universally, women say they want their partner to make more noise in bed. Make sounds. Let your partner know when she’s doing something you enjoy. Tell her that feels good, guide her with your words. Simply saying “Oh yes, like THAT” while she’s doing whatever thing you are really enjoying is great. Even non verbal communication is great. For example, put your hand on her head, not to GUIDE her, but to feel what she’s doing as she blows you. Not every woman will be into this, and some will really be into it. You can also hold her or touch her and your squeezes will let her know when she’s doing something you like.
External Site Advice
Typically, I avoid linking to a Cosmopolitan article because I don’t agree with everything they say. But, here is a short list I agree with. Nicole Atkins also give GREAT advice on her medium.com article. She goes over the physical sensations, and includes links to the specific parts she mentions. This is a particularly good article on the subject of great blowjobs. Hey Heidi covers one item I honestly hadn’t thought about. Lie back and relax. Letting all your thoughts go and being in the moment to accept all the pleasure is an important part of making a great blowjob.
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