We are More than Our Penis!

We are more than our penis!  Men tend to think of themselves as just a penis, and I think that media perpetuates that viewpoint.  But we are MUCH more than our penis, gentlemen.  We are more than our penis.  We are hands, fingers, mouths, tongues.  Men are built to please women.  Our whole body can be used sexually.  Women don’t think of themselves as just a pussy, their mouths, asses, breasts, hands, are all sexualized.  Touch our skin, play with our anus, find our prostate, kiss our body, let us know that we are more than our penis.  Knowing that your body can pleased and can please without your penis can take a lot of pressure off during a sex session.

Skin

Skin is a sex organ.  Feeling the touch of your partner as they drag their fingers over you.  Sensing their breath on you as they move their mouth closer.  Knowing their tongue is tasting your body.  Flushing with blood as your partner’s touch, feeling the warmth of their body against yours.  Sensual massage from your partner is a great way to be sensual with your body.

Anus

Yes, the anus is a sexual organ. There are a lot of nerve endings in the anus.  Penetration is not necessary, simply pressing on the anus during foreplay feels pleasurable.  Rimming (the act of orally stimulating your partner’s anus which can lead to analingus) is putting pressure on your anus with their tongue.  Penetration can feel good too, just follow the same rules we’ve talked about when we discussed anal sex.  Go slow, use lots of lube, relax.  This leads us to the prostate!

Prostate

The prostate is inside your body.  You can see on this post where it is.  The prostate can be stimulated from the outside as well.  Have your partner press on the outside of your body between your legs, near your anus.  If you press firmly in that area, you’ll feel pleasure inside.  Allowing your partner to insert their finger and provide direct pressure can give you out of this world pleasure.  There is a stigma around this because it’s anal pleasure, which is ridiculous.

Fingers

We all know our fingers are sex organs.  Playing with your partner, fingering, grabbing, holding, restraining, all the wonderful things our fingers can do.  And I didn’t even list penetrating.  Fingering both yourself or your partner is a talent to admire.  Using your fingers and hands is so important because your penis might not always work.  Being able to please your partner with your mouth or hands can get your partner there when your penis simply can’t.

Mouth

Using your mouth on your partner is also more than cunnilingus.  Stimulating your partner’s body everywhere you like to be stimulated.  Kissing literally anywhere.  Being kissed on your neck or kissing her neck.  Learning how to eat pussy well is an artform, and we’ve covered this in other posts.  Being good at cunnilingus and truly enjoying it can overcome a lot of other sexual issues.  Partner’s always enjoy a great oral session, from both sides.  My advice is to be so good at eating pussy, you partner might not even realize you haven’t fucked her yet.

Brain

This is the biggest sex organ for any human.  Think about it.  Everything we do with every part of our body during a sex session is to please us, our brain.  There’s a great story on bigthink.com about the brain and sex.  It talks about dirty talk, the pleasure centers, and a little bit of the physiological parts of the act of sex and the differences in male and female brains.  Let’s be serious though, the brain drives our sexual desires.  It makes us do the things we do.  It settles and judges all our decisions as to why it’s OK for some people to have a threesome but others find it completely insane, and everything in between!

More Than Our Penis

This is just the proverbial tip of the iceberg, but knowing that we are more than just a penis is important.  Just like everything we do on this site, it’s important because it’s wrong for us to think we are simply a dick.  Women aren’t expected to just be a pussy in bed, their whole body is sexualized (and to be clear, I’m not saying that is OK all the time, but in a sexual setting it IS OK).  Just like women, we have lots of ways to please our partner and multiple ways to be pleased!  There’s not shame in wanting and getting more from your sex life.  In this regard, it’s imperative in my opinion.