The Difference Between Making Love and Fucking?

What’s the difference between making love and fucking?  Making love is about intimacy, tenderness and love.  Fucking is purely carnal, a physical release.  Both can happen in a single sex encounter!  So let’s discuss making love versus fucking, and see where this takes us.

Making Love

In my experience, this is where most sex sessions start.  Starting with intimate kissing, eye contact and touching.  Then moving to some oral sex with continued eye contact.  Finally, penetrative sex.  During the sex session, a lot of attention if paid to your partner’s pleasure.  Making love focuses your attention on the intimacy of the act.  Making love is the physical manifestation of the love you feel for your partner.

When you make love, you are putting your feelings into your actions.  You are savoring the moment, really feeling the intimacy of the event.  I like the definition the Tribeca Therapy website has.  Intimacy is “being close to someone in a manner that isn’t about what they bring [to the relationship] or what they do”.  It should be noted that sex is not all about intimacy.  Sex and intimacy are different things, and many people confuse and tie the two together.  When making love, the end goal is not always an orgasm but intimacy through a physical expression.

Fucking

When discussing making love and fucking, fucking is about a purely physical release.  In a healthy relationship, bot exist in conjunction.  As I stated earlier, both can happen in the same sex session.  Fucking is a physical act.  Freinds with Benefits is fucking.  Sex with a prostitute is fucking.  Fucking with your partner is pulling off clothes, eyes full of need.  It’s immediate penetration with a goal of release for one or both.

Fucking is animalistic.  With heavy breathing, very little speaking, and a lot of physicality, fucking is relatively easy to spot.  Fucking isn’t about intimacy at all, it’s about releasing your pent up sexual energy into your partner.  It is carnal.

Fucking and Making Love

Fucking and making love can happen in the same session.  At some point, making love devolves into a good fucking.  A gentle start with a big finish, it should be stated.  Sometimes it might tsart rough and carnal and turn into something gentle and loving.

Just know, there’s no wrong way to express your needs.  Both physical needs like fucking, and intimate expressions like making love.  Making love are both parts of a healthy relationship.