“She’s giving you head, now what’s your job?” is a question I see come up a lot. In this post, we’ll cover how to communicate what you want, how to be specific about what you want, and what to do while she’s giving you head. It’s all about communicating (surprise!) and doing it in a positive, reassuring way. Not being negative about it is very important. You need to talk about what feels good for you (every man is different in their specifics) and you need to talk about how she wants to handle the cum.
So, the time has come. She’s hinted and moved that way. Her head is getting close to your dick, you can feel her breath on you. She finally touched your cock to her lips, opens her mouth and you gently slide….into her teeth. Now, you need to have a good talk about blowjobs.
Don’t Criticize
She knows your cock hit her teeth, she can feel it. You should just tell her if something is uncomfortable. Scraping against teeth falls into this category for sure, so just gently tell her. “Hey, I love you giving me head, but I hit your teeth. Maybe we can try some different things?” A statement like that opens her up to talk about why you hit her teeth. If your dick is too big, then you might just have to accept it. It’s possible she’s having a bad day and her jaw hurts. That’s OK too, but communicating about it is the best solution. For example, my SO focuses on my head, and uses her hand for the rest of the shaft. BJ’s are amazing, and I honestly couldn’t tell with my eyes closed where her lips stop and her hands start.
The important things to keep in mind when you are having this discussion are:
1) Don’t make her feel bad about what’s happened, that will take away her pleasure in pleasing you
2) Always have suggestions as to how she can change what’s she’s doing to please you better
Making her feel bad about what’s happened will make her feel bad. She was giving you a blowjob because she wanted to make you feel good, and failed. So you have to be gentle when you talk to her about it. You can’t just jump in with “that wasn’t very good, you used your teeth”. Saying anything like that is unproductive. What you need to say are things like “That felt great, and I love you wanting to please me, but let’s work together to find a way that feels better for me” or “I love your desire to please me, but my dick hit your teeth. Let’s try to find a position where that doesn’t happen”. Which leads us to the second point.
Teach in a Positive Way
Always have suggestions ready to help guide her when she’s doing something you don’t like. You will need to work with her to get it right, she does not have a dick and doesn’t know what it feels like to have one sucked. So, you may have to communicate some basic things to her about your anatomy, like where you are most sensitive, things like that. Make sure you have your personal preferences known as well. You need to know what you like and be able to articulate it so you can suggest to her what feels good for you! Not knowing means you two need to work together learn what feels good and works for both of you. I know, it’ll be a burden for you to have practice blowjobs, but together you can do it!
Some things that you can suggest are having her focus on the head of your cock because that’s where the most nerves are. You can have her use a lot of spit, which will help lube everything and slide into her mouth easier. Using her hands in conjunction with her mouth is a great thing to talk about too.
Relax and Enjoy!
“She’s giving you head, now what’s your job?” is where we started, so let’s talk about what to do when there’s not been anything wrong. Your job is to relax and enjoy the blowjob. Be vocal about it when she’s doing something you like. Let her know if something hurts so she’ll stop. She wants to pleasure you when she’s giving you head, so just enjoy it. You should always communicate when you are going to cum. I can promise you that it’s a surprise she does not want.
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