Get the ultimate sex life with sex toys. Some people are intimidated by sex toys. I’m open to almost any of them. My SO and I have some ground rules. What’s important in your sexual relationship with your partner is that you communicate! I link back to the article on communication in every post because it’s the most important aspect of anyone’s sex life. Communicate! Now, on to the toys!
Sex toys are there to augment your sex life. The biggest concerns I see online are men worrying about the dildo/vibrator replacing their dick. It does not work that way. A toy cannot hug, hold or kiss you. Toys cannot comfort her, hug her, or be with her during rough times. A toy is never to replace, only augment. So, adding toys to the bedroom should add to both your experiences.
How you use the toys will depend on the toy. We have experience with expensive and inexpensive toys. Without only a couple of exceptions, the expensive toys have been worth their prices. This is my experience with sex toys.
To start, I would strongly avoid buying off Amazon. I know it’s cheap, but it’s not the good kind of cheap. Buying from sex toy retailers will ensure that you are getting the product you are paying for. My SO and I will go into sex stores and buy products so that we know we are getting warranty and quality. You want to stick with the brands you know or have heard of. We like We-Vibe, Magic Wand, LoveSense, and Lelo (among others). There are knock offs of all these products online. The problem with just getting them wherever (or on Amazon) is that they are often made with inferior plastics. Because these products go inside, on and around our most sensitive parts, we need to pay attention to quality.
Lets start with men’s sex toys. As most of you know, these carry a negative stigma. Even in my mind, I still have a mental block against buying them for myself. There is a large variety of toys for us. Shopping at stores like LoveHoney, you will see a big variety of toys for us. Some of them are inexpensive, some are hundreds of dollars. The least expensive male toys are cock rings. These go around the base of your shaft or the shaft and balls. They work to help your body contain the blood in your penis to maintain an erection. You can see the anatomy in this post that makes this work.
On the expensive end of the spectrum, there are completely automated masturbators. You will find that these machines are designed to simulate anything from a blowjob to vagina or anal sex. Because I’ve never tried these machines, I can’t tell you much about them. It’d be interesting to try one, for sure. But I would want to use it with my SO. Solo play just isn’t fun without sharing our kinks!
Lastly, my favorite group of toys, couples toys. Again, you can go from inexpensive to expensive. My SO and I like the remote controlled toys. In our experience, the toys that stimulate her clit while having sex are fun. For foreplay, the womanizer is very fun gently sucking on her clit before I do. It’s important not to be intimidated by something that’s designed to augment your pleasure as a couple, though! Keeping in mind that nothing can replace you, seeing your partner writhe in pleasure should be your goal, no matter the methodology.
Finally, make sure you are having fun with not just the toy, but the selection as well! As always, if you have questions, check out our Contact Page and shoot us a message. We’d love to hear from you!
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