Getting in the right mindset for a great blowjob is the most important aspect for a good time (besides a willing partner!). The right mindset for a perfect blowjob experience means you are relaxing, preparing to be pleased, communicating what you like and want, and ready for a good time. There are a few articles on this site here on the subject, but more advice is always welcome!
Relaxing
Relaxing for a blowjob means being comfortable. Find a spot that’s not only comfortable for you, but for your partner as well. If you are comfortable on a chair, make sure your partner has a blanket to kneel on or sit on. When you receive a blowjob on the bed, that means making room for your partner as well as yourself. Just make sure you are both comfortable for the duration of the blowjob.
Preparing to be Pleased
This one sounds funny. A great blowjob means you need to be preparing to be the center of attention. For me, this is the hardest part. You have to be ready to just receive pleasure without any effort on your part. Your partner is there to give you pleasure. They are going to be focussing on you and your pleasure. This is an act of giving on their part, so you should be receiving with the intent of you pleasure. So, t would be insulting to the giver to not be receptive.
Blowjobs are a selfless thing to do for the giver (although my partner would disagree).
Communicating Your Desires
Communicating your desires, likes, and dislikes during a blowjob is important. There is no universal technique that everyone likes to receive. So, knowing what you like is important. Also, you could have a partner that likes to experiment with you to figure it out! Think about pressure, like how much pressure do you like on your head or your partner’s hand on the shaft. Do you like it when your partner plays with or sucks gently on your balls? There are a lot of things to think about.
It is not just technique. Think about the acts that you like or that your partner might like to try on you. Do you want to be in their mouth the whole time? Where do you want to cum? Don’t forget to warn your partner before you cum because they will have a preference as well.
Communication is a two way street. Find out if there are things your partner wants to do. Do they want to rim you while playing with your dick, or give you some manual prostate stimulation? These are the things you should talk about. Hopefully, this will spur other conversations. Be open, talk about things you have wanted to feel and let your partner express things they have wanted to try.
There are a lot of videos about it but here is a short one, and here is a course on Masterclass about this as well.
Ready for a Good Time!
Once you are ready a great blowjob, put all this prep into action! Relax, get comfortable, and let your partner get to work pleasing you. Let your partner put your conversation to work, putting the perfect pressure on your head. Working your shaft just right. Bringing you to edge and pushing you back until you can’t take it anymore. Then, warning your partner (if that is what you decided on) and releasing your orgasm.
Conclusion
A great blowjob isn’t difficult, it just takes a bit of effort from the participants. If you have any thoughts about the website or want to add or correct something, please use the contact us page!
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