Momentum and it’s role for the female orgasm is something we need to know by heart. We want our partner’s to have a purposeful rise to orgasm. And we’d like for it to be powerful. As with every post on this blog, I’m writing from my own experience. Which is one of the reasons I’m constantly referring to the communication posts I’ve made in the past. Communication is just that important. Knowing what she wants and expects is part of being a great sex partner. With that in mind, let’s talk about momentum and the part it plays for women when they orgasm.
Have you ever been receiving a blowjob and had the girl suddenly change what she’s doing? Every man and woman will experience a momentum failure like that. She’s got a great rhythm going, everything is just like you like it. So, you tell her “Just like that”. Then she changes what she’s doing. now, lucky for most men, we reset fairly quickly. I do realize not all men reset quickly, but most of us do. Women, however, do not. If a man drops to 70%, then returns from that, a woman drops to 20% and has to start over from there.
How do we tell and how do we help her not break the momentum? I always pay attention to her non verbal queues first. I know my SO, I know her body and her movements. With this, I know when she’s getting close. Also, listen to what she’s saying to you. For example, when she says “Just like that” then don’t change anything. Don’t speed up, slow down, push harder, change nothing. When she says “just like that”, that is exactly what she means. Just like that.
I know all this seems a little silly to have to say. But with everyone’s goal of an orgasm, you don’t want to be that man that gets yours and she doesn’t’ get hers. The fun really begins when you start using your knowledge of her reactions to build and pull back. Momentum and the female orgasm doesn’t have to be an elusive thing. Kim Anami had a great blog post about building momentum in the relationship. Momentum is more than about sex. Remember that!
Building and pulling back pushes waves of pleasure through her. Once you have learnd her body language, you can use that to push her almost to orgasm, then pull back. You don’t want her to get too close, though. Just make sure she’s feeling good, then slow down, change position, something different. This will keep her orgasm a moving target for her. Then, once you push her through the orgasm, it’s explosive. That’s always a fun one!
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